HOT SPOT CRIME AREAS IN KL

(source: email)

Please take note of these few   HOT SPOT CRIME AREAS IN KL
1        Lebuh Ampang  Bus Stop Near The Indian Restaurants - Snatch Thief Area, 

victims are normally  Malay and Indian girls who are alone and not aware. Sexy Indian Girls, please be extra careful if you are to say a word, they will insult you with vulgar words or even slap  your face if you put up a fight.

2        Jalan Ampang - Menara Great Eastern / Great Eastern Mall 

If you are approached by anyone - men or women asking for direction or time, please be ALERT if any cars or motobike that comes near you. Stop you conversation and run for your for your life, if not be ready to scream or if you have a spray get it ready. Tag Team Ahli Gusti Jahat Gang will either snatch your handbag / handphone or sepak you if they can't get anything from you. If you are too sexy - they will bundle you into their car or molest you on the spot.
Kaum lelaki jangan tergoda / noda dengan kecantikan / seksi gadis tersebut - padah teruk akan menanti anda, nak muka anda pecah cubalah!!,  melainkan anda pun ada gang to fight back [ They work in a team of  4 to 6 person]. THE GIRL IS THEIR DECOY [UMPAN] to rob their unsuspecting victims.

3        Changkat Thambi Dollah Off Jalan Pudu - Bus Stop and Wisma Shaw Areas  

Lots of Mat Rempits who hang around the bus stop area to snatch your handbag. Thoese who drive to this area and to Wisma Shaw for shopping or Cari Makan, Please park your car at a safe                 parking area. Tepi Jalan parking areas can be not safe - Taiko Tai might force you to remove your car or they will park to block your car. Any words you say to them might end-up  you getting a good bash -up.[They have areas whereby only gang leaders can park their cars]

4        Jalan Pudu From Swiss Garden Hotel to Hentian Pudu Raya and Menara Maybank                 4.1        Ladies please takecare of your handbag and your handphone when you place it near your ears - Mat Rempit Gang will  Zoooom near you and roughly snatch it from you. You might just fall down due to the impact of it and hurt your head by hitting the ground.
        4.2        When withdrawing cash from the banks ATM  [Ambank or Maybank] Please look around first b4 you do your withdrawal, IF YOU NOTICE someone looking at you or suspicious to you, then you have to be extra careful, ok !. There is this GERAK KILAT gang who in a split second would be near you and snatch or point a knife at you to handover the money, some even force their victims to withdraw from their victims other ATM  banks.[Acording to my not so reliable source - they were one or two female victoms who were rape and dumped at Setapak and Kepong area]
        4.3        Boarding of Taxi or Unkown Person Car - Please take note of the route the drivers is taking you, was told if you are taken to a wrong road then you would end-up as a Rape victim or if you are a guy, hehehe.. you would be cash strip / burnt in a car.[My best friend lately was a victim,    lost his Rolex Watch, Weeding Ring and ATM's Card ].
        4.4        Ok, Ladies if you think that its safe to be on a motorbike with your Macho Guy that fine, but be ware of motorbikes beside you, they might be snatchers who will snatch your bag and Zoom away

  5        Wangsa Maju Putra LRT  and TAR College Area   A New Gangster Area  this area have now become worst than Jinjang, Balakong or Puchong .Groups of youths will do anything to harm you for just a matter of cents or dislike personality. Dont stare or look2 at them, all you will know is that they will just simply stab you with a penknife or a dagger.
6        Kepong, Selayang, Sentul Timur LRT and Wangsa Maju - Un Known Part Time Taxi Drivers or Stolen Taxi Waiting for You To Be Their Victims - Ladies if you are alone, please DO NOT board a taxi if you think the driver is not pleasant. If you have withdrawan money from the bank or that you are sexy please ENSURE that the driver dosen't  use the central locking of his taxi and driving you to a right route.[You have the full rights to ask the taxi driver  not to use the centeral locking - Winddown the windows if he does not obey to you].         Macho Guy you to can be a victim cash and valuables.

Too Much to Do, Too Little Time By: Brian Tracy

The most common form of stress that we experience is the feeling of being overwhelmed with far too much to do and having too little time to do it in.

In fact, "time poverty" is the biggest single problem facing most managers in America today. We simply do not have enough time to fulfill all our responsibilities. Because of budget limitations, staff cutbacks, downsizing, and competitive pressures, individual managers are forced to take on more and more work, all of which appears to be indispensable to the smooth functioning of our company or department.

Become an Expert

The solution to this problem of work overload is for you to become an expert on time management. There is probably no other skill that you can learn that will give you a "bigger bang for the buck" than to become extremely knowledgeable and experienced in using time management practices.

Be Open to New Ideas

The most foolish manager of all is either the manager who feels that he has no time to learn about time management or, even worse, the manager who, while being overwhelmed with work, feels that he already knows all that he needs to know about the subject.

"Learn Faster. Read Faster. Remember More."

Do you forget things you read last week...even things you read last night?
How would you like to learn faster and remember more? Learn to harness the amazing mental powers within you, now YOU can accomplish any goal, overcome any obstacles and solve any problem you face.

Never Stop Learning

The fact is that you can study time management and take time management courses for your entire business life and you will still never learn everything you need to know to get the most out of yourself while doing your
job in the most efficient way.

The Keys to Time Management

The two indispensable keys to time management are:1) the ability to set priorities; and 2) the ability to concentrate single-mindedly on one thing at a time. Since there is never enough time to do everything that needs to be done, you must be continually setting priorities on your activities.

Perhaps the very best question that you can memorize and repeat, over and over, is, "what is the most valuable use of my time right now?"

The Best Question of All

This question, "what is the most valuable use of my time right now?" will do more to keep you on track, hour by hour, than any other single question in the list of time management strategies.

The natural tendency for all of us is to major in minors and to give in to the temptation to clear up small things first. After all, small things are easier and they are often more fun than the big, important things that
represent the most valuable use of your time.

Start With Your Top Tasks

However, the self-discipline of organizing your work and focusing on your highest value tasks is the starting point of getting your time under control and lowering your stress levels.

Action Exercises

Here are two things you can do immediately to get your time under control.

First, make a decision today to become an expert on time management. Read the books, listen to the audio programs, and take a time management course. Then, practice, practice, practice every day until you master time management skills.

Second, set clear priorities on your work each day, before you begin. Then, discipline yourself to start on your most important task and stay at that until it is complete. This will relieve much of your stress immediately.

Terimalah kekurangan Suami seadanya

Terimalah kekurangan Suami seadanya
Seorang isteri mengadu begini kepada saya,
" Suami saya bukanlah seperti yg saya gambarkan sewaktu belum berkahwin. Dia amat berbeza daripada penampilannya dahulu. Sekarang dia bukan sahaja gagal membahagiakan saya malah sering menjadikan saya kesal mempersuamikannya. Ingin sekali saya meninggalkannya, tapi tak berupaya kerana memikirkan anak2 dan masa depan saya sendiri, walaupun ada lelaki yang sedia mengambil saya di luar sana. Saya seperti terperangkap oleh kedunguan masa lalu. Kekal be rsamanya bererti saya selamanyalah tidak akan berasa bahagia. Apa yang boleh saya lakukan sekarang?

Lalu saya bertanya,
Skrg puan nak yang mana? Kekal bersamanya atau mengikut lelaki lain? Maksud saya mana yang lebih berat? Kalau awak tanyakan yang mana lebih berat, tentulah bersamanya lebih berat. Kalau begitu, mengapa tidak pejamkan mata, bayangkan yang indah2, anggaplah dia satu2nya lelaki yang ada di dunia ini dan binalah kebahagiaan bersama. Isteri itu seperti terkejut dgn saranan saya.

Barangkali dia mengharapkan satu cadangan yang lebih memihak kepada gelojak hatinya untuk memilih lelaki lain, berdasarkan kebahagiaan yang sudah gagal dikecapinya sekarang.

Lalu saya perjelaskan,
Kalaulah kebahagiaan yang menjadi persoalan, belum tentu pilihan seterusnya akan menjaminkan kebahagiaan. Barangkali bersama lelaki kedua masalah lebih menimpa. Kalau nanti perkahwinan kedua itu juga gagal memberikan kebahagiaan, apakah anda akan berkahwin buat kali ketiga? Jika tak bahagia juga, anda akan berkahwin pula buat kali keempat? Kemudian kelima, keenam ? Sampai bila?

Hidup bukankah untuk dinikmati? Usia bukanlah lama untuk dipersiakan dengan hal-hal yang tidak sepatutnya. Siapapun dia, dia adalah lelaki yang bergelar `SUAMI'. Kebahagiaan adalah satu istilah yang telah terbentuk. Tinggal bagaimana kita mendefinasikan kebahagiaan itu sahaja yang menyebabkan sesetengah drpd kita gagal berasa bahagia.

Alangkah ruginya kalau hidup yang singkat ini kita gagal mendapat bahagia. Semata2 kerana menyangka kebahagiaan itu akan dinikmati jika bersama orang sekian-sekian. Semata-mata kerana menyangka Si Dia boleh memberi bahagia yang diimpi-impikan. Kalau meleset bagaimana? Kalau kebahagiaan yang diidam-idamkan itu tidak diperoleh sdgkan kebahagiaan yang sedia ada ini telah ditinggalkan, bagaimana?

Setelah anda diijabkabulkan, satu perjanjian telah dibentuk. Anda telah merelakan diri anda bergelar ISTERI dan rela memanggil org berkenaan yang tiada langsung pertalian dengan anda sebelumnya sebagai suami. Anda merelakan segalanya kepada dia dan demikian dia terhadap anda. Setelah diikat dengan tali perkahwinan, mengapa tidak pejamkan mata dan anggaplah dia pasangan yang terbaik. Dia mmg dijadikan buat anda. Dia adalah segala-galanya. Bentuklah kebahagiaan bersamanya.

JANGAN mimpi-mimpikan lagi org lain selain dia.
JANGAN angan-angankan perkara yang bukan-bukan.
INGAT!!!!.. Anda dijadikan dari tulang rusuk dia.. Relakan diri anda untuk bertolak ansur dlm beberapa hal untuk mencari kesukaan dan kebencian bersama. Relakan membina bahagia dan dialah alatnya.

Masalah yang sering menimpa pasangan muda ialah masing2 gagal memantau
imaginasi untuk membentuk bahagia pada awal perkahwinan. Setelah segalanya dilalui dan masalah menapak di sana sini, barulah sedar sesuatu sepatutnya dilakukan lebih awal dahulu. Tetapi nyata sudah terlambat, imaginasi bersama mekanisme-mekanisme nya telah dipersia-siakan. Bahagia kelihatan tetapi sudah tidak terjangkau dek tangan. Kesudahannya, bahagia disangka berada di luar dan mahu diburu walhal sebenarnya bahagia sudah berada di tangan, hanya gagal mengenal dan menikmatinya sahaja.

Selagi mana SUAMI anda itu masih menjalankan tanggungjawabnya, maksud saya dia masih ingat rumah, ingat anak-anak dan ingat untuk mencari rezeki, dia masih seorang lelaki yang boleh diharapkan. Apatahlagi jika dia seorang yang tidak meninggalkan ibadah-ibadah fardu, kekurangan-kekurang an yang ada pada dirinya hanyalah sekadar kekurangan untuk membenarkan kata-kata    "NO MAN IS PERFECT".

Mums, stop feeling guilty about working or staying home

31 March 2010

CHILDWISE
By RUTH LIEW

I HAVE often been asked: “Who is better – the working mother or stay-at-home mother?” Mothers who want to quit working, want to know whether they are making the right choice. While mothers who are full-time home-makers want to know how it will affect their children when they join the workforce.

Whether working or stay-at-home, all mothers share the same fears and concerns. They wonder whether they are feeding their children right or spending enough time teaching them the right values.

You should always feel that you are doing your best for the children. Whether you work or stay at home, you are a full-time mother. There is no place for guilt. If you look after your children with knowledge, skill, love and patience, you are the kind of mother that deserves the highest recognition.

I grew up with a working mother whose own mother was a stay-at-home parent. When I was growing up, my mother and my grandmother often differed in their views on how children should be disciplined or how to manage certain behaviours.

Whenever my mother went on annual leave, we felt that she was cramping a year of parenting into a few short weeks. She made us clean our rooms and gave us extra written work for practice. We were quite relieved whenever she returned to work.

My siblings and I felt much better when Mother was at work. We wanted her to leave us to our own devices. When she was juggling work and raising us, she shared her time with us doing what really mattered. She took us on educational trips and introduced us to arts and culture.

My mother fared better outside the house. She also worked because we needed the extra income.

She could hardly cook but she took us out to great eateries to try out international cuisine. Sewing was not her forte either.

There were many things she did not do but my mother’s mothering style provided us with a great deal more.

We learned to do many things that she could not do. I started cooking at a young age because my mother encouraged me by buying as many cookbooks as she could afford.

Mothers get criticised for their choices. When they choose to work outside the home, many would frown on them and blame them for all the wrongs their children did because they were not able to stay home to spend time with their children.

When my children were babies, I had one stay-at-home mother who asked whether I breastfed my children. She also told me that I would not have much time for my children because of my busy schedule.

A mother who chooses to stay at home with her children is often misunderstood as someone who could not do much outside the home. I know of many well-educated and capable women who are home-makers.

I once met a lady who was conducting a survey on households.

She asked: “Madam, you don’t work outside the home. What is your educational background? Did you finish secondary school?” She looked surprised when I told her I had post-graduate qualifications. She had assumed that I was a stay-at-home mother because I had little education.

I used to have a neighbour who was a stay-at-home mother. Every day I could hear her screaming at her crying son. She was not happy and neither was her young son. She felt stressed out and lonely staying home the whole day with a young child.

What children really want is a happy mother, regardless of whether she is a career woman or a home-maker.

We raise our daughters on limitless possibilities of career choices. We must support them in the choices they make.

Children thrive on their mother’s love; there is no discrimination whether this love comes from a working mother or a stay-at-home one.

Be confident and trust that what you have chosen for yourself is also the best for your child.

Contohi Nabi s.a.w dalam mempraktikkan kemesraan suami-isteri

Artikel di bawah diambil berdasarkan satu email yang dihantar ke mailing list ummiku-sayang@yahoogroups.com pada  Wednesday, April 7, 2010 1:12 AM


" Kemesraan hubungan antara suami isteri tentunya merupakan dambaan setiap keluarga. Kemesraan bukan hanya ada pada ketika suami isteri melakukan hubungan seksual ( jima' ) sahaja, akan tetapi ada banyak perkara yang dapat menjadikan hubungan suami isteri mesra dan harmoni. "

Perkara ini terkadang tidak disedari, sehingga jarang dilakukan secara sedar untuk menjaga kemesraan tersebut. Padahal bila dilakukan dengan niat yang benar akan dapat menambah kemesraan, mendapat pahala dan sekaligus dapat menghapus dosa-dosa.

Kita sebagai muslim patut bersyukur, kerana Rasulullah SAW sebagai contoh terbaik kita telah memberikan petunjuk yang lengkap termasuk dalam perkara menjaga kemesraan hubungan suami isteri. Dengan demikian kita tidak perlu mencari-cari sumber lain yang terkadang justeru menjerumuskan ke dalam perkara-perkara yang melanggar syari'at. Beberapa perkara yang dituntunkan Rasulullah SAW dalam menjaga kemesraan hubungan suami isteri antara lain :

a. Bergandingan Tangan

Bergandingan tangan ( saling memegang tangan ) kelihatannya merupakan perkara remeh yang kadang dilupakan oleh pasangan suami isteri. Padahal bila ini dilakukan dengan lemah lembut dan perasaan kasih sayang yang mendalam, merupakan satu perkara yang dapat menjadikan suasana semakin mesra bagi pasangan tersebut.

Ini amat bermanfaat jika sebelumnya ada perkara-perkara yang kurang menyenangkan, sehingga untuk membicarakannya perlu suasana yang tenang dan penuh kasih sayang.

Yang lebih penting lagi, bila dilakukan dengan niat untuk mencari keredhaan Allah, ketika seorang suami memegang tangan isterinya dengan penuh kasih sayang, dosa-dosa mereka akan keluar melalui celah-celah jari tangan mereka, seperti yang diriwayatkan dalam hadith dari Abu Sa'id.

Mari kita renungkan sejenak :

" Sungguh apabila seorang suami memandang isterinya ( dengan rasa kasih sayang ) dan isterinya juga memandang suaminya ( dengan rasa kasih sayang ), maka Allah akan memandang keduanya dengan pandangan kasih sayang. Dan apabila suami memegang tapak tangan isterinya, maka dosa-dosa mereka keluar dari celah-celah jari mereka. "

b. Membelai

Perkara yang kedua yang dicontohkan Rasulullah SAW, yang menambah kemesraan hubungan suami isteri adalah membelai. Dengan belaian yang lembut penuh kasih sayang dari suaminya, seorang isteri akan merasakan ketenangan batin, sehingga perkara ini dapat menjadikan dia semakin sayang kepada suaminya. Perkara ini dilakukan Rasulullah SAW kepada para isterinya, sekalipun beliau belum akan mencampurinya. Abu Dawud meriwayatkan sebuah hadith dari sahabat : " Rasulullah SAW biasa setiap hari tidak melupakan untuk mengunjungi kami ( para isterinya ) seorang demi seorang. Beliau menghampirinya dan membelainya, sekalipun tidak mencampurinya, sehingga sampai ke tempat isteri yang tiba gilirannya, lalu bermalam disitu. "
HR. Abu Dawud

Perkara ini kadang tidak dilakukan oleh pasangan suami isteri, kerana mungkin dinilai memperlakukan isteri seperti kanak-kanak, atau memang belum mengetahui bahawa perkara ini sebenarnya diperlukan isteri untuk menunjukkan kasih sayangnya.

c. Mencium

Ada cara lain untuk menciptakan suasana kemesraan suami isteri yang juga dicontohkan Rasulullah SAW, diantaranya adalah beliau mencium isterinya sekalipun ia sedang berpuasa. Berciuman merupakan cara sederhana dan mudah dilakukan untuk tetap menjaga kemesraan suami isteri.

Berciuman tidak hanya dilakukan ketika akan melakukan hubungan seksual. Perkara ini baik juga dilakukan pada saat terlarang untuk berhubungan seksual. Mithalnya ketika sedang berpuasa dan saat isteri sedang haid atau nifas. Pada saat-saat itu kemesraan tetap harus dijaga. Sebuah hadith yang diriwayatkan oleh Muslim dalam kitab shahihnya : Dari Umar bin Abu Salamah, sungguh ia pernah bertanya kepada Rasulullah SAW : " Apakah seorang yang berpuasa boleh mencium?"

Beliau menjawab : Tanyakan kepada orang ini ( maksudnya Ummu Salamah ) .

Lalu ( Ummu Salamah ) memberitahukan bahawa Rasulullah sering berbuat begitu. "
HR. Muslim

Dalam beberapa riwayat lain juga dijelaskan bahawa Rasulullah SAW pernah mencium isterinya setelah beliau berwudhu sebelum menjalankan sholat.

d. Tidur Seranjang

Jika suami isteri tidur seranjang, tentunya lebih banyak perkara yang dilakukan dalam bermesraan. Dengan tidur satu ranjang memungkinkan mereka saling berdakapan dan berpelukan. Perkara ini menjadikan keduanya merasa tenteram dan tenang. Perkara ini juga dapat menjadi wacana hiburan atau penyegaran setelah melakukan tugas rutin sehari-harian.

Mengingatkan pentingnya tidur seranjang ini, maka Rasulullah SAW mencontohkan bahawa, beliau tetap tidur seranjang dengan isterinya sekalipun isterinya sedang haidh, seperti diceritakan pada sebuah hadith : Dari Aisyah RA, ujarnya : " Rasulullah SAW dahulu biasa menyuruh kami berkain, lalu beliau sentuhkan dirinya padaku, padahal saya sedang haidh. "
HR. Bukhari dan Muslim

Sebaliknya seorang isteri yang tidak bersedia tidur seranjang akan mendapat laknat malaikat, sebagaimana sabda Rasulullah SAW pada hadith berikut : Dari Abu Hurairah RA, ia berkata : " Rasulullah SAW pernah bersabda : " Jika seorang isteri semalaman tidur memisahkan diri dengan suaminya, maka malaikat melaknatnya hingga subuh. "
HR. Bukhari

e. Mandi Bersama

Mandi bersama juga merupakan perkara penting untuk menjaga kemesraan suami isteri. Mandi bersama dapat menjadikan hiburan yang menyenangkan sekaligus menyegarkan. Rasulullah SAW sebagai tauladan kita juga mencontohkan mandi bersama isterinya, sebagaimana diriwayatkan pada hadith berikut : Dari Aisyah RA, ia berkata : "Aku biasa mandi bersama Rasulullah SAW dalam satu tempat mandi. Antara tanganku dan tangan beliau saling bergantian mengambil air, tetapi beliau mendahului aku, sehingga aku berkata : ' Sisakan untukku, sisakan untukku '. Ketika itu kami sedang junub. "
HR. Bukhari dan Muslim

Di samping sebagai perantaraan menambah kemesraan hubungan suami isteri, seorang isteri yang memandikan suaminya dengan niat mencari redha Allah akan mendapatkan rahmat. Perkara ini dijelaskan pada hadith berikut : Dari Aisyah RA, ia berkata : " Rasulullah SAW pernah bersabda : " Semuga Allah merahmati suami yang dimandikan isterinya dan ditutup ( kekurangan ) akhlaknya. "
HR. Baihaqi

Itulah beberapa perkara yang dapat kita lakukan untuk menambah kemesraan hubungan suami isteri sesuai dengan tuntunan Rasulullah SAW, dengan harapan kita mendapat pahala dan sekaligus dosa-dosa kita diampuni.